“Ack! Where did that wrinkle come from? I’m starting to look like a Shar-Pei.†Or, “I feel like a blimp today! Just write Good Year across my huge butt and send me to the nearest football field. Blahhhhh.â€
And so the negative self-speak goes. And goes. And goes.  No matter how much I champion the beauty of women, other women, I can’t seem to embrace the same love for myself.
Last night I attended a class at Jodi Baglien’s Wellness Studio. (jodibaglien.com) The guest speaker was Dr. Laura J. Patterson, a chiropractor in the Maple Grove, Minnesota, area. (DimensionalWellnessMN.com) Dr. Laura started by talking about Dr. Emoto’s work with water crystals.
For those of you unfamiliar with his research, I’ll offer the five-second tour. Â Dr. Emoto experimented with exposing water to positive energy (stating feelings of love, for example), and negative energy (saying angry and hateful words, for example), and then froze it.
He then had the resulting water crystals photographed. It’s more complicated than I’m stating, of course, but in a nutshell the water that received the positive energy almost always produced exquisitely shaped frozen water crystals. The negative energy water produced misshaped frozen water crystals.
Now, consider that the human body is 90% water. What happens on a cellular level when we constantly tell ourselves we are ugly, “less than,†fat, and so on? Negative energy begets more negative results. Interesting, uh?
There have been critics of Dr. Emoto’s work who claim he “cherry-picked†his photographs and findings, but I don’t really care if he did or didn’t. As I see it, the message is clear. We thrive when we surround ourselves with positive energy. Period.
I’m going to dedicate time each day to forming a new habit. I’m going to start noticing what I like about myself for a change, and being grateful for the gifts that make me unique.
How about you? When was the last time you said something nice about yourself… and actually believed it?
I’ve been feeling extra tender lately about relationships that haven’t worked out, and my tendency is to focus on what I’m missing out on by not having X in my life anymore. At the suggestion of a friend, I’ve been looking into a mirror (hard!) and telling myself all the qualities I have that someone else is missing out on by not having ME in their life. It’s a new practice, but it’s gradually helping me come back to remembering my worth in a relationship and to stand in my power again.
Good for you, Amanda. It IS incredibly hard to keep up the positive self-talk, but I applaud you for your efforts. I know a woman, Annette Vaillancourt, I think you might find interesting. She will be one of the profiled ladies in my book, and she is an expert at EFT. Her book is called Manifesting Your Soulmate with EFT. http://www.manifestyoursoulmatewitheft.com