Picture the dilemma…an introvert wanders into a sex shop and hopes to learn what’s trending in the lives of midlife women and sexual escapades. Okay, so I didn’t wander in so much as sign up, but the rest is right. The superb Aging But Dangerous sent out an email blast that they would be hosting an evening of sexual discussion. Other… Read More
Dried Cherries: Women and Midlife Sex, Part 4
“Sex at age ninety is like trying to shoot pool with a rope.†~George Burns Margaret is another example of an older woman who spent much of her adult life without a partner. She found love and marriage for the first time when she was forty years old. Margaret told me that once she laid eyes on Mike at a… Read More
Dried Cherries, Women and Midlife Sex, Part 3
“To hear many religious people talk, one would think God created the torso, head, legs and arms, but the devil slapped on the genitals.†~Don Schrader Cats in Heat My grandmother thought pretty much everything humans did was a sin, particularly if gratification was involved. Had enough to eat? Sin. Have money? Sin. Saying, “I’m proud of the job I… Read More
Dried Cherries: Women and Midlife Sex, Part 2
As a Baby Boomer woman with her landing gear in place to skid and bump onto the tarmac of the considered old, I’m fascinated how loneliness and sexual satisfaction mingle at this stage of life. Rachel Maines’ book, Technology of Orgasm, (Maines, 1999) gave me not only a historical view of technology as a sexual device, but on the culturally approved… Read More
Dried Cherries: Women and Midlife Sex, Part 1
Grandma stopped mid-sip and put her coffee cup down. Her eyes followed the lines of the ceiling as if the answer hid among the shadows above. “Why don’t you look in the bedroom closet? The one by the mirror?†Ewww. The closet.  The scary closet.  I was young, maybe eight years old, pajama-clad, and spending the night with her as… Read More